Beautiful World - Wonderful World

Imposing Metaphysical Principles

Healing or Judgement?

     Be honest about your feelings and get in touch with them, for instance; judgement, fear, blame, anger, despair, murderous thoughts, whatever is there.

At times people want to be a "good student" and fall into the trap of denying their feelings and burying them because they are not in accord with what they were taught they "should" feel.  And so the healing process is delayed or derailed.  When these metaphysical principles are imposed on themselves or others when they are really not ready at all to integrate them into their own lives it can feel preachy or even cruel.

Pulling in the Light all the time is not needed.  Light is always there.  Sometimes the darkness  just covers it.  So when someone discusses their "darkness" with you, all they really want is kindness, love and understanding words.  Your "real" job here is to see how you feel about this conversation, then heal yourself.  What is it that you are here in this moment to do?  Take a look at the expression on their face as you begin to help.  You can then tell what you have accomplished here, for yourself, that is. Do they stop talking, look ashamed, are they smiling?  This is the clue to what you really wanted to happen here.  Do you get stern and tell them to take the blame for their sickness and that it is a "lesson"?  Do you tell them that everything is a mirror?  Look at their face as you walk away.  that is your clue as to what your agenda really is.  Do you with hold love because they are asking for it all wrong?

Words alone do not create your reality, but how you think about them does.  If you are constantly guarding other people's words, so they won't effect you,  or quoting principles because you are...what?....afraid?  If you are the teacher or paid healer in a situation, at times such things may provoke a healing.  But you may be in a group who has learned or is learning metaphysical or healing principles or such, are you taking the opportunity to push the "younger" among you further away by your reactions.                                                      

Whoever is more peaceful during a trying situation be glad that you can bring this to you both.  In your heart you share your love. 



Mindful Massage with Jaya

Mindful massage to me is like entering a meditation.  I center and ground myself and become aware of my breath.  I then am more receptive of what is happening in my clients body.  I begin with a quick scan to see where the massage will begin.  This is done without any oils on my hands.  I may at times place some essential oil on my hands first according to what my clients tell me they need in the terms of their stress or pain.  When I start with no oil I am more aware of what is going on in the muscles and tissues.  Oil can block this awareness.  As I glide tissue against bone I can feel where to start because my hands don't move as easily in that area. I then may use some oil.  I said oil, not massage cream.  The oil I use feeds the tissues, not blocks the pores.  I use my whole body to lean in.  I also employ the clients breath when encountering a tight muscle.  Muscles have a memory and I purposefully trigger that memory when putting pressure on it.  The breath of the client retrains that memory path of pain to the brain.  Holding your breath keeps the pain in the past, breathing brings it to present time.  I ask the client to inhale while telling the painful muscle to let go, melting on the exhale.  Acupressure along the spine assists many releases in the body/mind/spirit.

At times a client re-experiences an emotion that was held in that point or muscle.  The release of that held emotion or memory increases relaxation.  You are not distracted during the massage because I ask you to place your awareness beneath my hands, listen to the beautiful music in the room, while placing your vision, with your eyes closed, at your forehead.  At times you may even see colors like a flowing lava lamp behind your eyes.Your busy mind quiets down and you go more deeply inside yourself.  This helps you and me to get more in touch with what you need to heal yourself.